Anger Solutions

Anger Solutions Rabies is an advanced form of anger, like the panic is fear, a state where there are even less in control of our words and behavior. Hatred is a condition in which we feel very badly for someone, avoid contact with him, and probably the worst wishes for him, perhaps even the hope that it will experience a tragedy. All three of these emotions, which now simply call "anger", the emotions are secondary, in the sense of other emotions such as prejudice, fear, guilt, injustice, disappointment, etc. . In are generally controlled by two beliefs: 1. We believe that there should be something that the other is the obstruction to have with us. This could be anything from sleep, food and shelter, peace of mind, our spouse or others who are attached.2. We believe this person to believe that this anger is responsible for our reality. We believe that if it were not for them, we would not be unhappy. He or she is "responsible" for our pain and unhappiness. Rabies can also be a starting point for a major change for one person or even an entire society. Anger can be a source of energy and dedication to transform the negative and unjust circumstances that surround us. Many of us have to first lea to recognize, accept and express our anger before we can regain our self-esteem and empowerment. (No need to vent our anger toward others. We can lea non-violent ways to express this energy. Catarsis There are several techniques that have nothing to do with the others.) Moreover, there are some cases which you may have to express anger in order to obtain a result of which we are responsible. This can be done, however, without damaging or degrading other.Hate the other hand, is based on the weak and has few redeeming qualities. A great person hates.Thus rarely, we are not interested in repressing our anger, but rather to acknowledge that by agreeing, in which he expressed in a manner not detrimental, understanding and focus their energies in directions towards the empowerment of self and social change.Here is a brief list of some of the reasons why you may feel anger toward someone: (You can verify that tend to bother you.) 1. When others do not agree with us.2. When you do not understand us.3. When we are unable to meet our needs. (It may be a psychological need, the need for acceptance, respect, or self) 4. If you do not respect us.5. When you think that is superior.6. When you try to control or suppress us.7. When critics us.8. When they tell lies or gossip about us.9. When there is damage or someone close to us.10. When you have ulterior motives or evil motives.11. When they are negative, complaints, whining, criticizing etc.12. When you think you know all.13. When we give advice that we have not asked for.14. When the role of victim, "poor me", and we want attention.15. When not caring for themselves or to support its share of load.16. Where mistakes.17. If you do not keep their promises or appointments.18. When you are weak and dependent.19. When we act in a selfish, selfish, and ignoring the others? needs20. When we use or others.21. When you are cold and insensitive.22. When they are not responsible for their word or responsibilities23. When lazy.24. When you ignore our needs.25. When you reject us.Other reasons____________________________ It would be interesting to go through the same list that replaces the word "that" with the word "I", the reference in the text of the amendments, to determine when angry with ourselves. This exercise can also reveal that some of us feel anger toward others is actually a projection of the anger we feel about ourselves. If we could understand and accept ourselves in situations we can understand and accept others.Positive alteatives to anger or hatred may be: 1. We can understand the other? shortcomings and failures. We all have flaws and moments that we are not aware or respectful of others.2 lover. If we have faith that nothing happens by chance and that life is exactly what we need in every moment of our growth process, we are able to take responsibility for what is happening and stop accusing the other.3. We must realize that we are the sole creators of our reality, and are attracted to others of life, and this corresponds to what we hear and believe in ourselves and everything lea.4. We can direct our energy to change or correction for this, what makes us angry.5. We recognize and understand our weaknesses and negative, and thus develop understanding of others? weaknesses.6. We can lea to forgive and to love others and ourselves we are. (Taken from "The Psychology of Happiness" by Robert Najemy available in this book and other writings you can see where you can download free articles and eBooks). Najemy About the Author Robert Elias is author of more than 600 articles, 400 cassette tapes of lectures on human rights Harmony and 20 books which have sold over 100,000 copies. He is the founder and director of the Center for Coexistence in Greece with 3700 members. His book The Psychology of Happiness, ISBN 0-9710116-0-5 and is available. where you can view and download FREE articles and e-books.